Posted by: christinelaennec | June 10, 2011

Guest Post by The Amazing(ly modest) Dafter! – Karma and Summer


Hello everybody!

It is I, the Dafter (Obviously not my REAL name but if I told you I might possibly have to kill you as I am a secret agent for the government! But shh.. it’s a secret!) and I have come to write a brilliant blog post on ….. (wait for it….) …. (drum roll please….)

KARMA! (and summer)

So, as you all know (or should do, unless you’re new to my mum’s blog, in which case, unless you’re psychic – you WON’T know) I recentlyish moved schools. My new school is alright I guess, but I haven’t really been able to ‘connect’ to the other kids that well. I blame my slightly huge obsession with the boyband The Wanted, as most of them HATE The Wanted! (Don’t tell me you don’t know who they are?! Comic Relief Single 2011? BRIT awards – although they didn’t actually win one, and missed the ceremony. If none of that rings a bell, my best advice is to google them. Google has the answer to everything!)Β  (I think they’re just jealous of how amazing TW are!) Well anyway…. umm what was I saying?! I get distracted so easily! OH YEAH!

At my old school around the time of my birthday this year, a few months ago, I joined Twitter, and started tweeting The Wanted (mostly Nathan – my favourite member). A few of the meaner girls at school laughed when I told them I tweeted him daily and said ‘HA! He’s never going to reply!’. After 4 months of tweeting Nathan random things about random stuffy like Narnia, unicorns, how amazing he is etc he FINALLY REPLIED!!! I felt as ifΒ I had well and truly claimed victory over the bullies.

Since I left that school I’ve done everything I could to erase the bullies from my life. I’ve deleted them from things like msn, hidden away all things that reminded me of them, and shoved them as far as possible to the back of my mind. There have been a couple of times, before I was smart enough to delete them, when they’ve talked to me online and been SUPER friendly. And you know what? I thought ‘if they really wanted to be my friend, they HAD their chance and they blew it, so they can just get lost for all I care’. I’m not going to pretend nothing happened at that school, because it did, and I’m still getting over it. But I can, and will, delete any possibility of them being in my future, starting from now.

But since I left that school I HAVE been a lot happier, and I feel as if Karma has paid me back for all my tolerance of their stupid, mean, disgusting tricks. And I know that someday they WILL get what is coming to them, and I hope that it will teach them a lesson. And if it doesn’t… I wish them luck with their lives. They might need it.

On a lighter note…. IT’S ALMOST THE SUMMER HOLIDAYS!!! (Well sort of… only a few weeks to go!) And I don’t care if this is the rainiest, most miserable summer ever because I am going to make the most of it! I’ve been thinking I might work on some writing and art, and piano (just a few of my favourite hobbies) and if there IS any nice weather (fingers crossed!) maybe even some sunbathing! What do you think?

Well.. that’s about it for now bloggey peopley (my new nickname for you all! Heehee!), I hope you enjoyed my first ever blog post! Peace out!

The Dafter xox



  1. Dear Dafter, from one of the bloggey people, i must say it is really terrific to hear from you and i am so glad that you are happier at your new school. i think working on your hobbies this summer and maybe a little sunbathing sound like lovely ideas. it is rather wonderful that it is almost the summer and i hope you have the best one ever! and alas, i have not heard of your band but i will google it. πŸ™‚

    • The Dafter here:

      Hello bloggey person! Thank you, yes you should they are a amazing band! πŸ˜‰ I hope you have a wonderful summer too πŸ™‚

  2. Great post, ‘Dafter’. I have to confess, I haven’t heard of ‘The Wanted’ either, but that’s just a generation thing. My parents had no idea who ‘Cream’ were, in my day. And now you’ll be asking, “Mum, who are ‘Cream’?”

    Glad you’ve shaken off the bullies. Let’s hope they improve their self esteem sooner rather than later.

    Fingers crossed for a good summer.

  3. Hi Dafter,

    I am REALLY curious about your name?

    Poor you for being in the path of bullies….you just have to wonder ‘why’ don’t you? We are all told it’s because of how they are treated at home, their inner self loathing etc but often that doesn’t help you in the moment or often even a long time afterwards but….there’ll come a day when you can put it all into perspective and that’s going to be a good place for you to be in but in the meantime, do lots of stuff in the holidays and perhaps some differant things that you would never have thought of, stuff completely out of the usual range. Just by the by my daughter who has just turned 15 had a mocking photo put up on a school acquaintance’s facebook page, I copied the photo and sent it with an email to the Principal the next day, she was spoken to and told to ring my daughter and apologise, of course she didn’t, they are weak, spineless people, but the good thing now is that after the initial sting. daughter couldn’t care less, she is very concerted in her studies and career path, she wants to be a politician so in time we’ll see who ends up where! You are not alone.
    As for the group…sorry never heard of them….age thing happening here!

    Bloggie hugs,

    • The Dafter:

      Yes, I suppose you have to feel kind of SORRY for the bullies to be messed up enough to do such things though! That’s a shame about your daughter, I deleted facebook so I didn’t have to keep in touch with people from my old school! Bloggie hugs to you too! (Even though I don’t actaully have my own blog!)

  4. Hello – another Bloggey peopley here – although my eldest son used to call my blog readers my ‘invisible friends’ How cool that Nathan tweeted you back. I love twitter – it is good fun.
    I hope you have a great summer doing all the things you want to do. Take care, and thanks for writing to us.

    • The Dafter:
      Yeah I agree, twitter rocks! I’m not sure my mum would agree so much, but she’s just not cool enough for it! πŸ˜‰ Thank you, you too, I hope I’ll be allowed to do another post sometime! (I’m sure if I beg hard enough I will) πŸ™‚

  5. Hello Dafter, great post, haven’t heard The Wanted yet, but I’ll find them at You Tube.How good of you to change school.I’m sure you’ll find some great new friends and have a wonderful time….

    • The Dafter:

      Thank you! Yes you should they are amazing πŸ™‚ I hope so!

  6. Hello from one Blog Person to another! (I’m enjoying your bookmarks – I have one in the new Bill Bryson I’m reading. Your mum will know about Bill Bryson. It’s another of those mid-life afflictions, just like blogging. Hmmm, is there a ‘b’ theme?) I digress. I may know of Bill Bryson, but of course I’ve never heard of The Wanted. I won’t mention this to my children. I know I will get the roll of the eyes, and I get quite enough of these as it is.

    My children both changed school, my son when he was 13 and my daughter when she was 11. They both moved from schools where the primary and secondary were part of the same school, so it was quite a shakek-up for them. Give it time to settle in and connect. My daughter took nearly a year before she felt fully part of things. My son took about 6 months, but boys tend to bond quickly over mysterious boy things.

    Erase the bullies! I had my own personal bully in the early years of secondary school. I don’t know why – she just seemed to be ‘attached’ to me. I couldn’t move school, but I gradually left her behind as she followed a ‘less academic path’. I encountered her 20 years later at a school reunion and felt sorry for her. She had got stuck in a dead end job and her personal life had turned out a mess. She just seemed to shrink before my eyes. Even now the bullies from your old school are shrinking, and disappearing from your life. Because of the way they are, they may even disappear from their own lives if they don’t sort themselves out. But that’s nothing for you to be bothered about. Or ‘buthered’, as we Aberdonians say.

    I am with you on sunbathing. Not so much the frazzling in the sun in Spain sort, but the warm, precious, Scottish sort. I’m going to keep a tally of how many sunbathing hours I manage. Shall we compare at the end of the summer?

    I hope you enjoy your precious summer. Summers are for stepping aside from the rest of the year and building your own particular world that you can carry with you through the next year of school and busy-ness. I’ll let you into a secret – I still do this.

    • The Dafter:

      Aww that’s good that your children settled in well πŸ™‚ I am doing my best to erase the bullies, and I am sure that if they don’t get their act together they WILL end up very unhappy! Haha yes I shall keep track and we can compare! πŸ˜‰ Thank you, I hope you have a good summer too!

  7. Hi Dafter,
    Really enjoyed reading this, I hope you will do some more writing. I don’t know who THE WANTED are, but you’ve certainly sparked my curiosity, and I’ll try to find out more about them. πŸ™‚

    • The Dafter:

      Thank you πŸ™‚ I hope so too! Yup you should search them they are AMAZING!

  8. I bet it felt good erasing the bullies from your life! My Girl didn’t have the courage to change schools like you, though she thought about it long and hard. She would have had to move away from me (her mum) to live with her dad instead, in London, and that was just too big a step. You are very lucky to have the chance to start again with both your parents to support you. It won’t be easy and there are mean kids everywhere but it sounds like you have made a good start. One day at a time! And do enjoy your summer! Have you read “The Summer Book”? It is written by the same woman who wrote “The Moomins” but it is not a children’s book. It is about a girl who spends the summer with her grandmother on a remote island near Finland and it is all about being happy and being bored and just watching the days pass by. It is funny and sad all at once. Maybe it’s more for your mum than you, but I love that book and you just reminded me of it. Enjoy the rest of your weekend!

    • The Dafter:

      Yes I know I am very lucky to be able to have a fresh start! I’ve never heard of that book, but will tell my mum about it! Thank you, you too!

  9. Hello the dafter, really enjoyed hearing from you and admire how you’re dealing with what’s been really tough for you. Karma’s useful! I am exceedingly jealous of your summer, and having really enjoyed reading this post I’m glad writing is one of the things you’re going to use your time for! Have a wonderful one πŸ™‚

    • The Dafter:

      Thank you! Yes Karma is very useful! Haha hope you have a good summer too!

  10. Great first post!! We love TW in this house too and AMG went to London last autumn with some of her friends to see them live at the Radio One Teen Awards and then again at BRMB Live at the NEC in Birmingham. Isn’t it a great feeling when you can have the last laugh over ‘the bullies’??? πŸ˜‰

    • The Dafter:

      Wow I am very jealous! :O They’ve never been to Aberdeen so I’ve never had the chance to see them live or meet them 😦 Am saving up though so maybe I will one day! πŸ™‚ Yes it is indeed!

  11. Hello Dafter, this was a great post! I think you handled the bullies really well. I wasn’t bullied at school but I hated it and just wanted to say that ‘real life’ after school is so much better.

    • The Dafter:

      Thank you! Well I certainly hope it is otherwise all this boring school will be for nothing! πŸ˜‰

  12. Hello Dafter. How nice to “hear” your voice after hearing about you for so long. You are a wise young woman to erase the bullies and dive into writing, art and piano. These things you love will be part of your life long after the pitiful bullies and their antics are a dim memory.

    I’m going to have to do some YouTube research on The Wanted too. Someday, I hope, you and my 12-year-old girl, Amelia, will meet face to face so you can discuss your favorite pop musicians, along with writing, art and the rest. Know you are always welcome in North Carolina or anywhere else we call home. And enjoy your summer in Aberdeen, which we visited just once — several months before you were born. Your mom’s lovely photos remind me frequently of how beautiful it is.

    • The Dafter:

      I hope so too! Haha you are welcome here too! Yes I will do my best to enjoy this so called “summer” – aka winter number 3! So far it’s been pretty rainy and windy, but there’s been a LITTLE bit of sun, so there’s still hope for sunbathing opportunites! Say hello to Amelia from me πŸ™‚

  13. Dafter –

    So fun to hear from you!

    I would like to erase half of what happened to me between ages 11 and 13 (excpet for fishing with my Dad every Satuday). What wretches people can be to one another! In the fullness of time, the world widens, and you find yurself less at themercy of the kids in your neighborhood or class.

    Have a great summer!

    – Kelly

  14. How about those typing and proofreading skills! So sorry!

    • The Dafter:

      Haha it’s fine, I always make HEAPS of typing mistakes and have to go back and edit! My typing is pretty sloppy generally!

  15. Hello there anonymous Dafter!
    I’m catching up with your mum’s blog and it’s a lovely surprise to find you here. When are you starting a blog of your own?
    More seriously, I’m SO glad to hear that you feel you have made a fresh start, and that you’re making some great plans for the summer. There are some great Molly Burkett animal novels (she’s an author who runs, or used to run an animal rescue place, so you can imagine the weath of stories she accumulated doing that) that you could throw in with the sun bathing! And as for the art, why don’t we muck around with some paper and colours one afternoon this summer? It could be fun!
    Take care

  16. Hello, Dafter, I am new to your Mum’s blog and am enjoying it immensely. I love the story of your ‘nickname’, Dafter. I am not from your continent and don’t know ‘The Wanted’ but I will be sure to mention it to my own young adults who might have heard of them. You are very articulate and wise for such a young lady and I am sorry about the bullies. There are bullies in all aspects of life and I always told myself and my children that the best revenge is to have a good life. I hope you have lovely summer and I hope you write again! xx Karen

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s


%d bloggers like this: